Many of us already know what anchors are; the metal object that is dropped from a ship or a boat to keep the ship or boat held in a stable position. However, anchors have another meaning; that which applies to relationships. Relational anchors are an individual or individuals who serve as sources of support, guidance, and comfort. Relational anchors provide one with a sense of security validation, and emotional connections. For example, my relational anchors were my mom and grandma. For others relational anchors could be a spouse, or other intimate partner, close friend, family members, or members of the community.  

No matter the relationship, relational anchors are individuals who we trust, who understand us, are empathetic towards us providing a sense of validation to us and our experiences. These anchors help us to navigate life’s challenges and build resilience during and after those challenges. They assist us to remain grounded in a sense of who we are because of shared values and mutual understanding. Our relationships with these anchors are extremely important for very many reasons including our mental health. 

Relational anchors are crucial to our mental health and wellness because they provide that sense of stability and emotional support. These anchors help to regulate our emotions, reduce stress, and promote feelings of security and safety. With these anchors we are better equipped to cope with adversity and maintain positive well-being. These anchors contribute to our sense of identity and self-worth, and they provide a safe space for expression, problem-solving, and seeking comfort. 

Furthermore, these relational anchors are crucial to our mental health because they can also provide us with coping mechanisms such as communications skills, conflict resolution and emotional regulation. Our anchors enhance and contribute to a broader support network, which provides access to diverse perspectives, resources, and opportunities for growth and connections. For this matter relational anchors can also be a therapist who plays a crucial role in providing guidance, insight, and therapeutic interventions to improve mental wellness.  

Additionally mental health support groups can serve as relational anchors by offering a supportive community of individuals who share similar experiences, challenges, and goals. These groups provide us with a platform for empathy, validation, and shared coping strategies, enhancing mental resilience and fostering a sense of belonging. The inclusion of therapists, mental health professionals and support groups as relational anchors underscores the importance of accessing professional help and community support in promoting and maintaining mental well-being.  

Take care of yourself and each other, 

Queen Wright